Showing posts with label Fear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Fear. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

FEAR has no POWER!


















Yesterday's entry focused on not being afraid of a do-over yet the key is being afraid. Fear is what keeps us from so many God given dreams that I would be remiss in not addressing it separately. I purposely say us because I know that fear has personally held me back for more years that I care to remember. 

While training to become a Christian Counselor, the instructor focused two entire sessions on fear because it is the root of most people problems even when they do not want to admit it or cannot place their finger on it. FEAR can be defined as False Evidence Appearing Real. I love this definition as it epitomize the essence of fear to me because it is those things within our mind that appear so real and control our reality yet are not factual. 

In 2007, after an accidental overdose, I experienced a period of homelessness that was real as the hair on my head and the eyes on my face yet fear controlled me and held me in bondage. It was keeping me from that do-over that I speak so boldly about today. My homelessness was real. My medical issues were real. My lack of finances were real yet this is not where fear had me bound. Fear had a hold of me that I could not get out of being homelessness. Fear had me believing that my health would never improve. Fear told me that no one loved me and would help me. Fear drove me to believe I would never be anything but what I was at that moment. Fear had me blinded to the fact that I was once a successful business woman, mother, wife, and Christian. Fear felt so real to me that I saw nothing but what my mind told me to believe. 

So you ask how do you overcome fear? 


  1. Realign your thinking – I absolutely love Joyce Meyer's Battlefield of the Mind and Power Thoughts as they books show Gods way of realigning our thinking. In Power Thoughts, she tells us that we can teach our mind to work for us. Most importantly is that the brain is an every maturing organ that never stops until death. I hear people in my business say often that I am just a negative person. This does not have to be the truth. You can relearn your thinking to be positive. Begin by thinking positive thoughts even in the midst of your circumstances. 
  2. Rewrite the story  – Fear is those stories we tell ourselves. If it is that simple then rewrite the stories. Find a new story to tell yourself. I began telling myself that I was going to get through this. I am loved. I am wonderfully and fearfully made. (Psalm 139:14) Guess what my story changed because I was now living a new story. Rewrite your story and begin to live! 
  3. Reignite your passion - Find that fun thing to do and fear cannot stop you from being you. I know you will laugh but while homeless, I danced! I took dancing lessons for free (find them in your community) and danced. I learned Salsa, Tango, Ballroom, Tap and more. I had the time of my life. I frequently quote from my book Dancing in the Rain produces His Promises! Yes, I was experiencing the most difficult time of my life but found out I could dance and enjoy life. Reignite your passion. It's burning inside you! FEAR has no POWER! 

I Encourage you to enjoy life to the fullest! It is too short to allow fear to write the story. Write your own story! Propel Your Problems to Potential!




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Monday, April 6, 2015

Never Be Afraid to Do a Do-Over!





I remember as a little girl playing with my friends and when I made a mistake I would boldly yell for a "do-over."  This was my opportunity to try again and do it differently. As adults we have become afraid to take the chance of doing it again. Often, it is because a do-over is seen as a failure instead of a new opportunity. I admit, as I approach my 50th Birthday, I recognize that my greatest successes has been a "do-over" after divorce, depression and despair. 

When life hands you lemons, make lemonade. That is done by not by being afraid to "do-over" and get that fresh start whether it's to overcome obstacles, start a new business, write a book, change your career, or embrace a new relationship. 

So, how do you do a do-over boldly?
  1. Acknowledge the Need – Recognize a do-over is necessary. We often stay stuck because we are constantly thinking there is nothing wrong. The simplicity of childhood is we were not afraid to ask for the do-over because we were not afraid to embrace that we needed it. It truly is a battlefield of the mind. "For as he thinks within himself, so he is" according to Proverbs 23:7 Change your mindset! Not only acknowledging the need to do-over but acknowledge that you can do-over! Embrace the change and do it!  
  2. Acknowledge your Gifts – You have been endowed with an enormous amount of gifts. When we are younger we focus on that one gift that will make us a great deal of money but often we need to change our focus and the gifts that God has given us that enriches not only ourselves but others. Notice that I keep saying gifts in the plural sense as we are not confined to one gift but numerous gifts. Recognize the various things that you do well and embrace the tasks that you can do when your do-over come. I have always been amazing with numbers and when I had to surrender my position as a software engineer it was very easy for me to build a stay at home career around income taxes and accounting. I love helping others and have fully embraced my gift of encouragement to become a life coach. Acknowledge your gifts and be be whatever you desire to be!
  3. Acknowledge your Strengths- Never forget that you have been accomplishing great things over the years. Look back and recognize how strong you really are in some of your past failures and accomplishments. We tend to forget that we have overcome already and that we can do it again especially when we are faced with a fearful event. When I was experiencing my divorce, I too began to say I can't make it but was quickly reminded of how I overcame the death of my parents and illness. This gave me strength to preserve through the storm. I quoted Paul constantly, "I can do all things through Christ that strengthen me." (Philippians 4:13) You too are strong!
  4. Acknowledge the Change - Change is fun!!!! Embrace who you are with dignity. We are given many talents for a purpose. That purpose is to be used to enjoy life to the fullest. When we begin to enjoy life we can change with grace and dignity. Not all change is bad. Some is for our good. I recognize that each of my do-overs has brought me closer to a better me and fulling my dreams. Instead of being afraid of a do-over welcome it so that you too can experience the life that you were born for. Your change is wrapped in your do-over. Do it!
A Do-Over can be fun!

I personally have gone from Software Engineer, Web Designer, Tax Consultant, Franchise Manager, to Author, Speaker, Minister and Coach. I have had my ups and downs yet I recognize that as long as I am utilizing my gifts, serving others, finding joy and ultimately pleasing God. Each do-over is worth the journey! 

I Encourage you to enjoy your journey and embrace each do-over with a smile!  Propel Your Problems to Potential!




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